If you think you’re too small to make a difference try sleeping with a mosquito in the room
Smartphones will make sure that you are never bored.
Never being bored will make it more difficult to find your creative passion.
Lack of passion will make you boring.
While wasting my time swiping through yet another “shower thoughts” post I bumped into this and it struck me. Is ironic the right word here? While trying not to be bored I find a post telling me that by doing this I am making myself boring. Clever.Read More »
My friend’s toddler babbled “don’t forget to subscribe” as he was put to bed. Kid watches so much YouTube he thought it means “goodbye”
When I read this it really impacted me. Even if this particular tweet was embellished, you know for sure that this is happening all over the place. I have a 5-year-old who loves YouTube so much that I took it away from him. Actually, I didn’t take it because he loves it, but because of the behaviour changes that I’ve witnessed in him.Read More »
Here’s Your Check-List:
Get up early.
Stay focused.Read More »
I take my 5-year-old to school every morning and we are often one of the first to arrive. I like to stick around to watch him play, and I talk to some parents. At the beginning of the school year (such as now), almost every morning I see a child grasping desperately at their mom or dad as they’re left in the schoolyard. It breaks my heart to see that. They’re screaming, crying, trying everything they can to not be left behind by the most important person in their world.
In these moments I’m thankful to my boy for not doing that. Last year he did do it once or twice, briefly, but we got through it together and he went into school with minimal tears.
So, this morning, after watching 3 different kids fall apart as their parents left them, I decided to look into what parents can do. Here’s what I found:
During the First Days of Kindergarten
Tips For Parents And Caregivers
I recently read an article on the CBC News site titled Nothing short of remarkable’: Study finds parents’ chats with their toddlers pay off 10 years later by Amina Zafar. This is a great article –go read it. But, if you want the short version, here’s my condensed version:
- Read to your kids, even if they can’t talk yet.
- Speak WITH them, not TO them. This means conversationally where they reply, even if they aren’t making sense/words.
More specifically, this study, “Language Experience in the Second Year of Life and Language Outcomes in Late Childhood” concluded that talking with your child helps them perform better – conversation with kids aged 18 to 24 months old produced marked cognative/academic performance improvements for the following 10 years.
- Develop a daily routine.
Create a time in your child’s day where YOU read to them, where YOU talk with them.
- Create 1-on-1 Time.
If you have more than 1 child, create a time slot for each one of them to be with you where they have your complete and undivided attention. Maybe not on the same day, maybe both parents can each take 1 kid. Figure it out.
- Stick to it.
Getting this started is great, but sticking to it for years is the challenge that will pay off.
Remember that this is not for you; it’s for your child.
- Your child will come to crave this attention from you. You may not realize this, but kids calm right down when they know that they can have your undivided attention. They feel secure, at ease, comfortable.
- You’ll find that these conversations and reading sessions will be become enlightening. Your child will eventually start sharing their deeper thoughts with you.
- You’ll miss it when you stop, so don’t.
A friend of mine said this about his father in a Facebook post. This father should teach classes and we should listen.
When you talk to your kid, you’re thinking like an adult… Because you ARE one. Stop, listen, feel.
I printed this sheet out and kept it in plain view for me to reference. To remind myself to be more gentle.
Use These Phrases Instead
- Tell me how you’re feeling.
- I want to understand how you’re feeling.
- I love you, even when you feel angry.
- It’s okay to feel mad.
- How can I help?
- I can see why you feel …
- It looks like you’re having a hard time. Tell me about it.
- I can imagine you feel …
- Can I give you a hug?
- Let’s take a deep breath together.
- I’m sorry for … .
- Next time, I’ll … .
- Can we start over?
- Will you forgive me?
- Will you sit next to me?
- Let’s take a break and do something fun.
- Let’s go for a walk together.
When your child does something that you want them to do more of, you tell them that they’ve done a good job, and tell them why.