Abortion. Tough Topic.

A friend posted this ecard pic on facebook. A discussion ensued. Below are my comments.

If you have to make a law that hurts a number of people, just to prove your morals or faith, then you have no true morals or faith to prove.

There are core issues to be addressed in the abortion debate, and every time I hear people talking about it they miss it. They talk about their feelings or the writings in an old book. Never-mind that. There are real, serious, logical and scientific arguments to be made here.

HUMAN RIGHTS
*The Right to Life.
-The woman has her right to (her) life.
-If something threatens that life she has the right to try avoid losing her life.
-The child has a right to (his/her) life.
-The child does not have the capacity to enforce or express that right. (It’s the responsibility of the parent.) Read the rest of this entry »

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Caine’s Arcade

A cardboard arcade made by a 9-year old boy.

9 year old Caine Monroy, who built an elaborate cardboard arcade inside his dad’s used auto parts store, is about to have the best day of his life.

A short film by Nirvan.

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Montessori vs Public

Watching this literally puts tears in my eyes because MY 8 year old announced this morning, during breakfast (pancakes that she made herself), that she HATES school. She HATES learning. The only thing that she likes at school is to play with her friends. My 10 year old sat in silent agreement. I had to expect the elder to agree because she is much more of a socialite than her little sister, who used to be the bookworm type. Read the rest of this entry »

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Any Attention is Good Attention… But, Why?

go for the goalI was studying goal setting for children when I read a line saying that the lower brain makes us think about our goals all the time. Rather than just believe without any scrutiny I decided to try and learn more about that. I figured that a bunch of science would help me back up a saying like that should I ever use it.

I read a few articles and none of them read anything like that phrase, so I lost hope in finding a connection. Then I read something about Dopamine (go look it up if you don’t know what it is).

I’m paraphrasing it to bring the context with it: The pursuit of a goal is very much like having acquired the goal already (in terms of dopamine in the brain), and the failure to reach the goal is much like losing a thing that you already own. The reason is that the process of achieving releases dopamine while losing/failing shuts of the dopamine flow. As a result, the reduction of dopamine in the brain makes us feel anxious and generally in poor form.

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How to Build A Ship

“If you want to build a ship, then don’t drum up men to gather wood, give orders,
and divide the work. Rather, teach them to yearn for the far and endless sea.”
— Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Parents, adapt this wonderful quote for your own children:

“If you want to raise a happy child, do not scold and punish him. Rather, teach him to yearn for praise and respect of his loved ones.”

“If you want your child to get their homework done, don’t watch the clock of the evening. Rather, teach them to enjoy the fruits of productive and efficient work ethics.”

I am just making these up, but I am sure you can add or expand. Please post your versions below!

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Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid (to your children)

This is a bad example of co-parenting.

As I write this I am most of the way through my 34th year on this planet. I am not the smartest or wisest person out there, but I am also not the dumbest or most ignorant either. So you can take my words with a grain of salt, ignore them or add to them. It’s your choice. I have something to say about co-parenting, and here it goes.

(You can skip past my story and go straight to “What to do,” below)

My parents split up when I approximately 12 years old. I wasn’t through grade 8 yet, and to be honest my memory of my childhood is filled with massive blank spaces that I have to fill in with recollections from family members. The things that I do manage to remember on my own tend to be important or emotionally charged events, such as my parents fighting. Except once they split up the fighting stopped and there was a big void in my world. My older sister and I stayed with our father as he forced our mother out of the house.

At that point in time I didn’t shed a tear about the situation because my dad had already put a good deal of effort into sharing his anger for her with me. I look back at these memories as both an adult and a father myself, and I see things with so much clarity now.

After she left he would spend even more time telling me about all the ways that she wronged him. I listened quietly, never second guessing a thing that he said, never once using my own thinking capacity. I grew to hate her. Read the rest of this entry »

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The Honesty of Children

An 18 foot playmat describing the evolution of species on Earth

An 18 foot playmat describing the evolution of species on Earth

This morning my 8 y/o said, “When I said that I believed in God I lied. I WANTED to believe in him but when I learned how the earth was made and how God made the earth I just didn’t anymore.

I know for sure that this comment really doesn’t sit well with theists because I posted this comment to a community (through an iPhone app), just to measure the reactions it would get. Every atheist response was positive, obviously, because this line of thinking matches theirs. The theist responses include things like, Read the rest of this entry »

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A Father With a Back Bone (pt 2 of 2)

Remember that guy who shot up his daughter’s laptop? Apparently that went super-viral. Along with instant fame comes the talk show circuit scavenging to make a buck off the lives of their prey. I absolutely condone and enjoy how well Tommy has handled this newfound attention.

First of all, he set up a quick website to handle the media attention. Smart move. Control the content coming from you. No miscommunications/quotes available when there is only one source.

Secondly, he stood right in the face of the attention, experts, panelists etc, and held his ground – like a man. Yes, he did what he did and accepted the consequences and hasn’t back-peddled at all. This is the kind of man that should lead other men.

Read it for yourself – it is completely worth the time spent doing so:
http://8minutesoffame.com/response-to-dr-phil/ Read the rest of this entry »

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Do Not Touch ANY of The Kids at School!

If you’ve read the post below about me playing with my kids’ friends in the school yard when I drop them off in the morning, then here’s the update that I am certain at least one person was some of you were expecting.

The principal called again. The story that she told is as follows: she was in the office this morning and overheard two boys talking about that guy in the yard (meaning me). One of the boys said, “He didn’t touch me.” I suppose he was bragging that I hadn’t tagged him this morning when we all played tag. This caught the principal’s attention, and I can only assume, that she then spoke to those boys long enough to confirm that it was indeed me.

Before I get into the call I want to add that this morning’s tag was pretty good! One little guy came up to me and asked me a question. I thought that I gave a clever answer but he informed me that the correct answer was “TAG! You’re it!” Read the rest of this entry »

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A Father With a Back Bone (pt 1 of 2)

Being rebellious is so cool when you think you’re not going to be caught.

As a kid I would have thought this father was a jerk, but as a father now I see that he is justified.

Kids, you will not understand this until you are grown up.

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