I started Parents' Place when I was heavily researching things like fluoridation, vaccines and other conspiratorial topics. Having done years of learning I have decided that I was mistaken when I vaccinated my young children and I now stand firmly against vaccination, fluoridation and pharmaceuticals.
Because of my mindset at the beginning of this blog you will find a great deal of regurgitated content here. Links to other peoples' work and the like.
Lately I have decided that I would post more of my own writings because I believe it is important for everyone to think critically, and on their own. If there is one thing that you can take away from this site, please let it be that.
Develop a daily routine.
Create a time in your child’s day where YOU read to them, where YOU talk with them.
Create 1-on-1 Time.
If you have more than 1 child, create a time slot for each one of them to be with you where they have your complete and undivided attention. Maybe not on the same day, maybe both parents can each take 1 kid. Figure it out.
Stick to it.
Getting this started is great, but sticking to it for years is the challenge that will pay off.
Remember that this is not for you; it’s for your child.
Your child will come to crave this attention from you. You may not realize this, but kids calm right down when they know that they can have your undivided attention. They feel secure, at ease, comfortable.
You’ll find that these conversations and reading sessions will be become enlightening. Your child will eventually start sharing their deeper thoughts with you.
Earlier this week my oldest was so interested in a book being read in class that she brought it home, with the express purpose of reading it to us. I thought that was really interesting, and she did a pretty good job.
Later in the week I was walking through the grocery store with the kids when I grew frustrated with some of their behaviour. I thought about putting them back in line, then about how they might react to that. I really didn’t want to spoil the positive mood – I just wanted to curb their behaviours.
Every time I look at what my kids are doing/have done in the Royal Canadian Air Cadet program I can’t help but look back at my youth and realize that I completely wasted it. Sometimes I just sit with that crappy feeling for days as I agonize over my lost personal development opportunities. Ultimately, what gets me out of that mental trap is the obvious realization that I would not actually choose to do my past differently because it would prevent me from having the family that I have now.Read More »
Several years ago I created this 2-page document to help me keep my kids on track. I find it hard to stay on top of a person, telling them what to do all the time, reminding etc. It drives me mental. I do not like to be the person to cause grief or strain, which really gets in the way of doing what a parent needs to do. I often turn to lists, charts, posters, etc to help defer the work and pain.
In the doc, I try to be fun or silly, but real and honest. I wanted it to be more than a list of instructions and more of a guide for life.
Kids going to school in the 80s and 90s did not get the same exposure to “bullying” as kids do now. The bully back then was a real stand-out kid, the stereotypical macho, hyper-aggressive, low-intellect, unhygienic, knuckle-dragging waste of human flesh. Well, that’s I looked at them.