Say This Instead


The Point

When you talk to your kid, you’re thinking like an adult… Because you ARE one. Stop, listen, feel.

I printed this sheet out and kept it in plain view for me to reference. To remind myself to be more gentle.

Use These Phrases Instead

TOOL - 16 Phrases for ParentsListening & Accepting

  • Tell me how you’re feeling.
  • I want to understand how you’re feeling.
  • I love you, even when you feel angry.
  • It’s okay to feel mad.
  • How can I help?
  • I can see why you feel …
  • It looks like you’re having a hard time. Tell me about it.
  • I can imagine you feel …

Moving Forward

  • Can I give you a hug?
  • Let’s take a deep breath together.
  • I’m sorry for … .
  • Next time, I’ll … .
  • Can we start over?
  • Will you forgive me?
  • Will you sit next to me?
  • Let’s take a break and do something fun.
  • Let’s go for a walk together.

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