Bruce Lee Teaches You How to Live Life

Bruce LeeBruce Lee (李小龍, 1940-11-27 to 1973-07-20 [32yrs]) is a Martial Arts icon known throughout the world as one of the best –if not THE best– martial artist to ever live. He changed the game not only for martial arts training in North America, but also for how Asians are represented in Hollywood, inspiring countless people all over the planet to become actors, fighters, and teachers. He was my idol when I was in high school and remains an influential figure to me today.

He was an absolute boss; he trained literally all the time, even while driving. More than a sensational fighter he was also a movie and TV star, a passionate husband and father, a deep philosophical thinker and devourer of books. He developed his own styles: Jun Fan Gung Fu and later Jeet Kune Do, which are filled with his thoughts on not conforming to the rigidity of a single style and the exploration of what is most effective for the individual in any given situation. Perhaps he is even the founder of the now ultra-popular MMA sport.

How does this all apply to Parenting? Well, his philosophies on living up to your potential are timeless, ageless, and we should be teaching them to our kids. Bruce Lee was not about kicking ass or building muscles. Bruce Lee was about reaching deep inside yourself and dragging a better you to the surface.

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Tip: If You Don’t Get A Miracle, Why Not Become One?

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

From time to time I read the story of Helen Keller’s life because it is such an inspiration to me.  In fact, whenever I think life is hard, all I have to do is review her story and then I realize that I have never really even come close to having a problem!

You may have read Helen Keller’s autobiography, The Story of My Life.  Or, you may be familiar with the movie, Miracle Worker, starring Ann Bancroft and Patty Duke.  Miss Bancroft played the part of Anne Sullivan, the teacher who taught the blind and deaf Helen Keller how to communicate.  Patty Duke, who played Helen, won an Oscar for her performance in that great 1962 screenplay.  Although the play has been produced many times on both stage and film, in my opinion the 1962 production was the best.  It is timeless in its message for both young and old, alike. My own grandchildren have been fascinated when watching it and learning from the struggles of the life and times of Helen Keller.Read More »

Tip: Non-Reactionary People Impress Me!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

One of the most difficult challenges each of us faces on a daily basis is learning how to not react to other people.  It starts from the very moment you wake up.  If you live in a family, it is very easy to let someone else’s morning mood wreck your day before it has even really gotten started.  Stop and think:  Which one of us has not allowed a crying baby, a barking dog, or another family member’s bad mood to immediately begin to affect our own attitude?  If we are not careful, we can easily get caught up in another person’s mood or attitude and become just like them.  We must plan in advance to not let the surrounding circumstances control us or we will surely fail in this area of life!

A few days ago I was meeting one of my daughters at Panera Bread Company for lunch.  When I pulled into the parking lot, I noticed that there was some construction going on that was making the flow of traffic a little difficult.  Since I had arrived a few minutes early, I sat in my car doing some paper work while I waited for my daughter.Read More »

Tip: It Is Better To Be A Grownup Than To Be An Adult!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

Occasionally it is important to differentiate between certain words or concepts.  In this week’s Tip, I want to share something that has taken me almost a lifetime to learn.  As a matter of fact, I still have not completely mastered it, but I am further down the road than I once was.  The subject I want to discuss is the difference between a grownup and an adult.

It is sometimes easy to become confused about this issue when we see someone who is chronologically an adult.  When we look at a baby or a child, it is easy to recognize them as such.  And, most of us are able to identify a teenager when we see one.  However, just because someone has reached adulthood does not necessarily mean that they are a grownup.  I have discovered that the two are not synonymous. It is possible to grow older in age every year but remain immature forever! Read More »

Tip: I’m the boss, Applesauce!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

I don’t watch much television; I simply do not have the time. However, when I do have the opportunity, one of my favorite programs is Judge Judy. I like her show because to me, she is a woman with a lot of “horse sense.” If you have ever watched the show, she is not only entertaining, she is also very smart. She has the ability to see who is being responsible and who is not in almost every situation. Her judicial decisions always seem to favor the person who is being the most responsible and honest.

Not long ago, someone butted in on her as she was speaking. Right in the middle of what she was saying, they interrupted her with their own opinion. Judge Judy pointed her finger at the person and said, “You need to remember that in this courtroom, I’m the boss, Applesauce!” Everyone laughed, including the bailiff. As I said earlier, she mixes good humor with her wisdom in deciding cases.

By the way, most of the cases Judge Judy tries are ridiculous and silly in nature. However, people are willing to go to court over some of the most ridiculous and silly issues! To me, that is the sad part of the show. And, in case you do not think that these situations happen in real life, you should spend some time with me or travel with me and observe some of the things I have seen. It would certainly be an eye-opening experience! Let me tell you about one such incident.Read More »

Tip: Think Ahead!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

As most of you know, I do a lot of public speaking. I recently sat down and tried to determine approximately how many different talks I have done in my lifetime. Conservatively speaking, I have done over 30,000 talks. By any stretch of the imagination, that is a lot of talking! I have learned a great deal about audiences and how to keep them interested in my topic. I have learned to be animated and use humor to keep my audience engaged while I am speaking. However, even though I have learned many techniques over the years, I must admit that I have occasionally been caught off guard by some unexpected occurrence. I believe those learning experiences have served to make me a better speaker and communicator. One such incident completely blew my mind!

When I speak, I like to use a handout because I have discovered that it helps the audience to follow along with me better. And, I have noticed that audiences enjoy having some notes to refer to when they get home. But, on one particular occasion, I realized that even though I may have the best handout in the world for my audience, it still might not work.Read More »

Advice from Stephen Hawking

  1. Remember to look up at the stars, and not down at your feet.
  2. Never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it.
  3. If you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is rare, and don’t throw it away.

Tip: Responding is Better Than Reacting!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

One day recently, I was driving in Atlanta traffic when suddenly it came to a stop.  Everywhere I looked, traffic was at a stand-still.  It just so happened that I was sitting on an overpass above the interstate, so I had a birds-eye view of what was happening.  I noticed that one side of Interstate 285 was being closed down.  From where I sat, I could see that it was because of a funeral procession for a police officer.  The first part of the procession included several hundred motorcycle policemen.  They were followed by a long line of police cars.  After that were several fire trucks, ambulances and other medical vehicles.  Finally, five helicopters flew overhead.  With such a large procession, it completely shut down Interstate 285 for a long time.  It was one of the most powerful things I had ever seen!
The last time I remember actually seeing that much authority and power in one place, was several years ago when I was in traffic and the Vice President of the United States came to town.  It really was amazing to watch the respect that was shown to the fallen police officer.  He had been killed in the line of duty.  Everyone who was able to observe what was taking place was very respectful.  People stopped, got out of their cars, took off their hats, stood at attention, and paid their respects.  It was a very moving moment.

Again, because I was stopped on an overpass, I had a front-row seat to everything that was taking place around me, and I noticed that something else was happening.  From my vantage point, I noticed that there were some drivers who were full of rage and anger because someone slowed down their progress.  They were unaware of the reason for the delay, so they were angry.  Someone actually had the audacity to get their spot on a piece of the pavement right in the middle of a funeral!  I thought to myself, “If they only knew what was taking place, they would not react that way.”  Had they known that the traffic jam was because of a funeral for a fallen police office, they would have certainly changed their attitude.  And, that is when it dawned on me that they were not responding to the situation, they were reacting to it.Read More »

Tip: Be Responsive!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

As a teenager, I had a summer job.  I was a lifeguard at our local Elk’s Club swimming pool.  It was a country-club atmosphere and most of the people of our small town of Griffin, Georgia, were members.  Everyone knew each other and during the summer, we all had a great time at the club pool.

Because I was so young and it was one of my first jobs, I really didn’t know much about what I was supposed to be doing.  I thought my main job was to get a good tan and look good in front of all the girls.  Occasionally I would walk around the pool and pick up a piece of trash, if I happened to see it.

I also had the responsibility of cleaning out the baby pool every morning.  Sometimes that could be a real challenge!  On a few occasions I saw things floating in the baby pool that were questionable.  I always used the pool “scooper” to pick up items I was afraid to touch!Read More »

Sometimes be Brief, Specific and to The Point – It Gets People’s Attention!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

A word of explanation is probably in order.

I (Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.) graduated from three different colleges with graduate degrees and I can honestly say that the story I am about to relate only occurred once in all of my educational experience!  However, it is the point of this Tip.

One day a student in one of my classes decided that he would challenge our professor.  Since we all know that it is acceptable to question what we are being taught, the fact that this student challenged the professor was not the issue.  It was the attitude with which he did it.  He had a sharp tone to his voice and was rude and disrespectful.  He went to great lengths to discredit the professor’s viewpoint and to explain his own.  It was clear that he wanted the professor (and the rest of the class) to know just how smart he was and that his point of view was right.Read More »