Bruce Lee Teaches You How to Live Life

Bruce LeeBruce Lee (李小龍, 1940-11-27 to 1973-07-20 [32yrs]) is a Martial Arts icon known throughout the world as one of the best –if not THE best– martial artist to ever live. He changed the game not only for martial arts training in North America, but also for how Asians are represented in Hollywood, inspiring countless people all over the planet to become actors, fighters, and teachers. He was my idol when I was in high school and remains an influential figure to me today.

He was an absolute boss; he trained literally all the time, even while driving. More than a sensational fighter he was also a movie and TV star, a passionate husband and father, a deep philosophical thinker and devourer of books. He developed his own styles: Jun Fan Gung Fu and later Jeet Kune Do, which are filled with his thoughts on not conforming to the rigidity of a single style and the exploration of what is most effective for the individual in any given situation. Perhaps he is even the founder of the now ultra-popular MMA sport.

How does this all apply to Parenting? Well, his philosophies on living up to your potential are timeless, ageless, and we should be teaching them to our kids. Bruce Lee was not about kicking ass or building muscles. Bruce Lee was about reaching deep inside yourself and dragging a better you to the surface.

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Tip: If You Don’t Get A Miracle, Why Not Become One?

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

From time to time I read the story of Helen Keller’s life because it is such an inspiration to me.  In fact, whenever I think life is hard, all I have to do is review her story and then I realize that I have never really even come close to having a problem!

You may have read Helen Keller’s autobiography, The Story of My Life.  Or, you may be familiar with the movie, Miracle Worker, starring Ann Bancroft and Patty Duke.  Miss Bancroft played the part of Anne Sullivan, the teacher who taught the blind and deaf Helen Keller how to communicate.  Patty Duke, who played Helen, won an Oscar for her performance in that great 1962 screenplay.  Although the play has been produced many times on both stage and film, in my opinion the 1962 production was the best.  It is timeless in its message for both young and old, alike. My own grandchildren have been fascinated when watching it and learning from the struggles of the life and times of Helen Keller.Read More »

Tip: Non-Reactionary People Impress Me!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

One of the most difficult challenges each of us faces on a daily basis is learning how to not react to other people.  It starts from the very moment you wake up.  If you live in a family, it is very easy to let someone else’s morning mood wreck your day before it has even really gotten started.  Stop and think:  Which one of us has not allowed a crying baby, a barking dog, or another family member’s bad mood to immediately begin to affect our own attitude?  If we are not careful, we can easily get caught up in another person’s mood or attitude and become just like them.  We must plan in advance to not let the surrounding circumstances control us or we will surely fail in this area of life!

A few days ago I was meeting one of my daughters at Panera Bread Company for lunch.  When I pulled into the parking lot, I noticed that there was some construction going on that was making the flow of traffic a little difficult.  Since I had arrived a few minutes early, I sat in my car doing some paper work while I waited for my daughter.Read More »

Tip: It Is Better To Be A Grownup Than To Be An Adult!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

Occasionally it is important to differentiate between certain words or concepts.  In this week’s Tip, I want to share something that has taken me almost a lifetime to learn.  As a matter of fact, I still have not completely mastered it, but I am further down the road than I once was.  The subject I want to discuss is the difference between a grownup and an adult.

It is sometimes easy to become confused about this issue when we see someone who is chronologically an adult.  When we look at a baby or a child, it is easy to recognize them as such.  And, most of us are able to identify a teenager when we see one.  However, just because someone has reached adulthood does not necessarily mean that they are a grownup.  I have discovered that the two are not synonymous. It is possible to grow older in age every year but remain immature forever! Read More »

Tip: I’m the boss, Applesauce!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

I don’t watch much television; I simply do not have the time. However, when I do have the opportunity, one of my favorite programs is Judge Judy. I like her show because to me, she is a woman with a lot of “horse sense.” If you have ever watched the show, she is not only entertaining, she is also very smart. She has the ability to see who is being responsible and who is not in almost every situation. Her judicial decisions always seem to favor the person who is being the most responsible and honest.

Not long ago, someone butted in on her as she was speaking. Right in the middle of what she was saying, they interrupted her with their own opinion. Judge Judy pointed her finger at the person and said, “You need to remember that in this courtroom, I’m the boss, Applesauce!” Everyone laughed, including the bailiff. As I said earlier, she mixes good humor with her wisdom in deciding cases.

By the way, most of the cases Judge Judy tries are ridiculous and silly in nature. However, people are willing to go to court over some of the most ridiculous and silly issues! To me, that is the sad part of the show. And, in case you do not think that these situations happen in real life, you should spend some time with me or travel with me and observe some of the things I have seen. It would certainly be an eye-opening experience! Let me tell you about one such incident.Read More »

Tip: Think Ahead!

By Robert A. Rohm Ph.D.
Personality Insights, Inc.

As most of you know, I do a lot of public speaking. I recently sat down and tried to determine approximately how many different talks I have done in my lifetime. Conservatively speaking, I have done over 30,000 talks. By any stretch of the imagination, that is a lot of talking! I have learned a great deal about audiences and how to keep them interested in my topic. I have learned to be animated and use humor to keep my audience engaged while I am speaking. However, even though I have learned many techniques over the years, I must admit that I have occasionally been caught off guard by some unexpected occurrence. I believe those learning experiences have served to make me a better speaker and communicator. One such incident completely blew my mind!

When I speak, I like to use a handout because I have discovered that it helps the audience to follow along with me better. And, I have noticed that audiences enjoy having some notes to refer to when they get home. But, on one particular occasion, I realized that even though I may have the best handout in the world for my audience, it still might not work.Read More »

What to Do About Lying

Source: Dr. Phelan’s Blog (ParentMagic)

What to Do About Lying
A primary rule for parents when dealing with lying is don’t badger or corner children! Imagine you give a child the third degree about whether or not he has homework. He denies it six times and finally, after your seventh question, he admits that he has some. What has happened? By this time, of course, you are furious. More important, however, you also have given your child six times to practice lying! You may think to yourself, “Sooner or later he’ll realize he can’t fool me and he’ll give up.” Wrong. Many children will continue to take the easy way out: they will simply attempt to become better liars.

Either You Know the Truth or You Don’t
Look at it this way: you either know the truth or you don’t. If you don’t know what is going on, ask once and don’t badger. It’s a good idea here not to ask “impulsively”. Many kids simply respond back impulsively. They lie, but their real desire is just to end the conversation, get rid of you, and stay out of trouble.

If you are going to ask, you might say something like, “I want you to tell me the story of what happened, but not right now. Think about it a while and we’ll talk in fifteen minutes.” If he tells you the story and you find out later that the child lied, punish him for whatever the offense was as well as for the lie. No lectures or tantrums. Deal with the problem and try to fix things—as much as you can— so that lying does not seem necessary to the child.

If you do know what has happened, tell him what you know and deal with it. If he has done something wrong that you know about, simply punish him reasonably for that and end the conversation with, “I’m sure you’ll do better next time.”

Keep Your Perspective
Some parents still prefer to ask a child what happened—even when they already know what it was. This is OK if you do it right. You should say something like, “I got a call from the school today about an incident at lunch. I’m going to ask you to tell me the story, but not right now. I want you to think about it for a while, and then when you’re ready you can tell me, but remember I already pretty much know what happened.”

Lying is not good, but it certainly isn’t the end of the world either. It happens from time to time. It doesn’t mean that your kids don’t love you or that they are bound to grow up to become professional criminals. Over the years, however, frequent emotional overreactions on your part —combined with badgering and cornering— can produce an Accomplished Liar.

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Understanding Life

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down “happy”. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment. I told them they didn’t understand life.”

— John Lennon

Advice from Stephen Hawking

  1. Remember to look up at the stars, and not down at your feet.
  2. Never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it.
  3. If you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is rare, and don’t throw it away.

The Ten Commandments

  1. Do not condemn people on the basis of their ethnicity or skin colour.
  2. Do not ever even think about using people as private property or as owned or as slaves.
  3. Despise those who use violence, or the threat of it, in sexual relations.
  4. Hide your face and weep if you dare to harm a child.
  5. Do not condemn people for their inborn nature. (Why would god create so many homosexuals in order to torture and destroy them?)
  6. Be aware that you too are an animal and dependent upon the web of nature. Try to think and act accordingly.
  7. Don’t imagine that YOU can escape Judgement if you rob people with a false prospectus rather than with a knife.
  8. Turn off that Fucking cell phone. You can have no idea how UNimportant your call is to us.
  9. Denounce all Jihadists and Crusaders for what they are: Psychopathic criminals with ugly delusions and terrible sexual repressions..
  10. Be willing to renounce any God or any Faith or any Religion if any Holy Commandments should contradict any of the above.

In short: don’t swallow your moral code in tablet form.